My father died at 5:10 AM last Friday morning, Feb. 10, after nearly a month's stay at Carolinas Medical Center-Mercy Hospital in Charlotte. He was 92 years old. Yesterday was the funeral, and our family was so gratified and touched to see a number of friends and colleagues of his, who had come to pay their respects, even some who had not seen him in years. We took comfort, too, in our family being able to gather together for the service, including my mother, my wife, my brother and his wife and three children. It was a very special service, and though my brother and I tried to convey a bit of who Newell Bush was, it was my 14-year-old niece Alexa who stole the show, assuring us all that her grandfather would be with her in spirit always, remembering him as "ridiculously smart" and "hilarious." I think Dad would have liked that.
It's too soon to be able to properly put down the right words here to express all that he meant to me. Right now the thought that is growing ever larger in my mind since Friday is just how fortunate he was, how blessed to have such a long and interesting life, and how the end came in a way that he practically would have scripted. He was independent nearly to the end, living with my mom in their split-level house and going up and down the stairs to his bedroom several times a day, right up until his hospitalization Jan. 16. Even at the hospital, though his physical strength was ebbing, his mind stayed clear, again just about to the very end, which came peacefully in his sleep. He was so very ready to go, and not afraid in the least, as he made very clear to me on many many occasions.
It had become a running joke in our family: you'd mention some city that you had just visited or driven through, and Dad would say, "Yep, I spent a summer studying there in, let's see, was that '35 or '36?" or "yeah, I taught there for a year just before the war..." or something to that effect. I kept thinking, if you added all these chapters of his life together, it was too much for one lifetime surely, it just couldn't possibly add up mathematically...but in submitting his obituary, it really sank in, what a hell of a long life the guy lived. If you would like to read it,
here is the link to the obituary that ran in the Charlotte Observer last Sunday. Those of you who know me really well may also know what a gifted pianist my Dad was. We sent him on his way yesterday to the sounds of the young Frank Sinatra with Tommy Dorsey's big band, singing "Stardust." It was Dad's signature tune...I think that whatever dimension he was in by yesterday morning, he was enjoying it very much.